Follow these 18 Rules For Living Happy and Balanced Life” to live a noble and honorable life. Most of us struggle everyday with a common goal of living a life that is meaningful, happy, and balanced. According to Dalai Lama there are 18 rules for living, which some of us will agree that these rules are very essential if we want to have a world peace. Below are the 18 rules of living by Dalai Lama and I added my opinions and views on each.
DALAI LAMA’S 16 RULES FOR LIVING
1. Remember that great love and great achievements involve great risk. This means that if you want to get somewhere or want to achieve something, you must remember that some of your actions involve great risks and sometimes could affect those that you love and even yourself.
2. Accept loses but don’t forget the lesson. It means that sometimes no matter how hard you try, you fail. But that does not you are a failure. You just need to take that failure as a stepping stone to reach your goal.
3. Follow the three R’s:
- Respect yourself – no matter what you want to achieve, you need to respect yourself. Never do a thing that you will regret in the future, just because you want to achieve something. Remember that the means does not always justify the end.
- Respect others – you have to respect others if you want to be respected.
- Responsibility – means that if something happen to you, no matter how hard that will be, you have to take responsibility and not blame anybody.
4. Not getting what you want is sometimes means you are lucky. It is a stroke of luck, maybe. Everything happens for a reason and mostly the reason is for your own good.
5. Know the rules so you know how to fix them when you break them. I think this is the hardest rule. This simply means to learn the rules and be a good member of the society. I don’t this means you have to break the rule. It is simple not a good thing to break any rules.
6. Never let a small dispute ruin a great friendship. Remember your friendship with others is more important and any types of dispute. Practice humility and admit if you’re wrong. Say sorry. I think that is something hard to do.
7. When you know that you made a mistake, take the steps correct it right away. A simple thing that says admit your mistake so there is no relationship or friendship being affected.
8. Spend some time by yourself everyday. You don’t have to go somewhere to spend some alone time. It could be just few moments in the bathroom, reflecting your day, what did you do and what did you accomplish. Even going our of your door and look at the sky will do.
9. Be open to change, but don’t change what you believe. Change comes in many forms: Changed of job, home, country and people. Accept change but keep the good values and beliefs that you have from your upbringing. Your values distinguished you from other people and that is something nobody could take away from you unless you let them to. It could be being respectful to the elderly, which is not very common these days.
10. Sometimes silence is sometimes the best answer. Silence is something you can use during a difficult situation where speaking is not a good choice and only will make the situation worst. Silence is the best way to end an argument.
11. Live a good, honorable life. Then when you get older and think back, you’ll be able to enjoy it a second time. Save yourself from regrets and do every good deed that you can, or anything good that makes you happy. When you get old you will have a lot of good stories to tell and share to your grandchildren and you could become a role mode and inspiration.
12. A loving atmosphere in your home is the foundation for your life. Decorate your home with things that you love. Put away bad images and keep the environment clean and free of chaos. Surround yourself with people who makes your home a place where you get peace of mind.
13. In disagreements with loved ones, deal only with the current situation. Don’t bring up the past. There is no use of bringing up bad memories. It will only hurt you and the people around which eventually worsen any situation. Forgive and forget! It is a hard thing to do, but think of it as a gift you can give to yourself. Forget the people who hurt you and the best way to do that is to move away from them.
14. Share your knowledge. It’s a way to achieve immortality. Living gives you a lot of wisdom. Wisdom is something you gain by living and experience. Share your wisdom to the young generation. Share how you succeed and also your failures too, so it will not be repeated.
15. Be gentle with the earth. Keep the earth clean. Throw your trash in a proper place and recycle and reuse when possible. It is our responsibility to take care of the earth so our children will benefit and will do the same.
Once a year, go someplace you’ve never been before. Why only once a year? Maybe “at least” once a year. But most can’t afford to go somewhere even once a year because of illness and financial. But some of us are very fortunate to be able to do this. Explore the world if you can, when you can. Experience the beauty and serenity of a place you’ve never been. Experience a new experience!
17. Remember that the best relationship is one in which your love for each other exceeds your need for each other. Need implies a must have for yourself, while love implies giving of yourself. What else could this mean?
18. Judge your success by what you had to give up in order to get it. Success is something you got by hardwork and dedication. It is a journey that you enjoyed traveling while going to the destination you’ve painted for yourself. Did you give up family and your health to get there? Then that is not success, but an obsession and selfishness.
There is very little I could add to the 18 Rules for Living by Dalai Lama. The 18 rules offers very advice to live healthy, happy and noble life. Namaste!