Follow these “18 Rules For Living Happy and Balanced Life” to live a noble and honorable life. Most of us struggle everyday with a common goal of living a life that is meaningful, happy, and balanced. According to Dalai Lama there are 18 rules for living, which some of us will agree that these rules are very essential if we want to have a world peace. Below are the 18 rules of living by Dalai Lama and I added my opinions and views on each.
DALAI LAMA’S 18 RULES FOR LIVING
1. Take into account that great love and great achievements involve great risk. This simply means that if you want to achieve something then you have to take action which have its risks and consequences.
2. When you lose, don’t lose the lesson. It you fail to achieve what you aimed, despite of doing everything and risking everything, you have to take note of the reasons why you failed to avoid repeating the mistake.
3. Follow the three R’s:
- Respect for self – no matter what you want to achieve in life you need to respect yourself, you won’t do a thing that you will regret in the future, just because you want to achieve something. Remember that the means does not always justify the end.
- Respect for others – if you want to be respected you have to respect others also. Very self explanatory rule.
- Responsibility for all your actions – Simply means that if something happen to you, whatever the consequences are, you have to take responsibility and not blame anybody. It is
4. Remember that not getting what you want is sometimes a wonderful stroke of luck. It is always a stroke of luck and remember that everything happens for a reason and mostly the reason is for your own good.
5. Learn the rules so you know how to break them properly. This is the hardest rule. I think this simply means to learn the rules to be able to follow them properly. I don’t think or believe that breaking a rule is a good thing, unless the rule is inhumane.
6. Don’t let a little dispute injure a great friendship. A friendship is more important and any types of dispute. Talk about it and the person who made the mistake should practice humility and admit the wrong. Simple as that!
7. When you realize you’ve made a mistake, take immediate steps to correct it. This rule is related to #6. If you made mistake admit it so there is no relationship or friendship being affected.
8. Spend some time alone every day. It could be in any form and anywhere. This is the moment to reflect and connect with your mind and spirit. It could be through prayer or meditation, or a walk at the park.
9. Open your arms to change, but don’t let go of your values. Change comes in many forms: Changed of job, home, country and people. Accept change but keep the good values and beliefs that you have from your upbringing. Your values distinguished you from other people and that is something nobody could take away from you unless you let them to. It could be being respectful to the elderly, which is not very common these days.
10. Remember that silence is sometimes the best answer. Silence is something you can use during a difficult situation where speaking is not a good choice and only will make the situation worst. Silence is the best way to end an argument.
11. Live a good, honorable life. Then when you get older and think back, you’ll be able to enjoy it a second time. Save yourself from regrets and do every good deed that you can, or anything good that makes you happy. When you get old you will have a lot of good stories to tell and share to your grandchildren and you could become a role mode and inspiration.
12. A loving atmosphere in your home is the foundation for your life. Decorate your home with things that you love. Put away bad images and keep the environment clean and free of chaos. Surround yourself with people who makes your home a place where you get peace of mind.
13. In disagreements with loved ones, deal only with the current situation. Don’t bring up the past. There is no use of bringing up bad memories. It will only hurt you and the people around which eventually worsen any situation. Forgive and forget! It is a hard thing to do, but think of it as a gift you can give to yourself. Forget the people who hurt you and the best way to do that is to move away from them.
14. Share your knowledge. It’s a way to achieve immortality. Living gives you a lot of wisdom. Wisdom is something you gain by living and experience. Share your wisdom to the young generation. Share how you succeed and also your failures too, so it will not be repeated.
15. Be gentle with the earth. Keep the earth clean. Throw your trash in a proper place and recycle and reuse when possible. It is our responsibility to take care of the earth so our children will benefit and will do the same.
Once a year, go someplace you’ve never been before. Why only once a year? Maybe “at least” once a year. But most can’t afford to go somewhere even once a year because of illness and financial. But some of us are very fortunate to be able to do this. Explore the world if you can, when you can. Experience the beauty and serenity of a place you’ve never been. Experience a new experience!
17. Remember that the best relationship is one in which your love for each other exceeds your need for each other. Need implies a must have for yourself, while love implies giving of yourself. What else could this mean?
18. Judge your success by what you had to give up in order to get it. Success is something you got by hardwork and dedication. It is a journey that you enjoyed traveling while going to the destination you’ve painted for yourself. Did you give up family and your health to get there? Then that is not success, but an obsession and selfishness.
There is very little I could add to the 18 Rules for Living by Dalai Lama. The 18 rules offers very advice to live healthy, happy and noble life. Namaste!